There really isn't love at first sight. At first sight all you can tell is the clothes they chose from their closet, and their looks. This is called "lust at first sight" and hardly something to base a relationship on. This is chemistry and it's "hormone" based. In those first few minutes, it's decided whether we desire to get to know someone.
Once that's generated...we get to know them over a few weeks.....and find they are not what we thought. Rather than just saying "it was great knowing you" and moving on....many say "ah they will change". Or worse yet, you think you can make them change. Is that not misplaced ego? How can anyone think that we can change things about anyone. (Especially if they feel they are fine the way they are). Before jumping into a "relationship" just because you may want one so badly......wait until you really get to know what makes this person unique.
Find out their hopes and wishes, your common interests, similarities, values/attitudes and not just what you hope and wish they might be like. (many fall in love just with the "idea" of being in love) I know I have, and I'm sure many out there have too. It's a wonderous feeling, yet not real, not something you can build, grow and look towards in the future....
Thought to ponder: Change is something that the person desires. So, rather than "waste" your time on wanting to change things in the other person.....perhaps you are just with the wrong person.
Terri Giosia
Motivational Speaker, Coach
http://www.teralunaenterprises.com
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